Truth in dating
Female Chastity For example, most people in our society place an extremely high value in female chastity, when in point of fact it has no real value.
Please understand: I’m not suggesting women shouldn’t have control over their sexuality or that consent doesn’t matter. What I am saying, however, is that we place an oversize value on whether or not a woman has sex, period — especially if that sex is casual or takes place outside of a traditional relationship.
For women, this means constant competition for a small pool of men. In North America only 20% — which means these women have immediately reduced their eligible dating pool by 4/5ths.
Let’s take a common example from SOD, where it’s common to see women ask for a man “six feet or taller” who “has his shit together” (i.e. The wealthy “has his shit together” part is more difficult to define, but suffice it to say that in an economy where wages have been stagnant for 30 years and –50k of student debt (if not more) is common, again here is a place where many men simply fail to measure up.
Men, as we know, will mate with the highest value woman who will have him — which sometimes means the only girl in the bar. And it makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint, as a woman is making — at least symbolically and instinctually — an incredible investment/risk when she has sex with a man.For most of us, dating is often confusing, frustrating, and frightening.We look for the "right person" in bars, at school, at parties, and on Internet dating sites. 60% of marriages end in divorce, and only 1-2% experience the fulfillment both partners once hoped for.My guess is that the real problem was that Aziz didn’t provide a permission structure on the date for why having sex with him would be an OK thing to do.As a consequence, he made Grace feel “slutty” and she didn’t like that, which is totally understandable.