Setting boundaries christian dating relationship
- Gretchen Dear Gretchen, First let me say how sorry I am to hear about your sister.Such loss is hard to understand and even harder to bear.Is there any way for me to know she is in heaven or not?I miss her terribly and would want nothing more than for her to have eternal salvation.I have some understanding of your situation as I have someone close to me who has bipolar and I live in fear of her getting to a point where it is far too much for her.I have lived with it now for more than four years and have daily cried out to God to keep her safe and heal her.He says:[Pastors] are called to preach and bring people to Christ. They arent called to be nursemaids to people who are never going to grow up.Over a period of time, I have seen pastor after pastor lose his or her edge and give in to peoples demands that he or she take care of them.
It is very easy to be bogged down with the pressing tasks of administration, visitation, or even" janitorial" tasks in the church ministry while loosing one's pastoral vision and direction.oundaries are hard to set and maintain--especially in the ministry. ) words a clergy colleague had to digest after he decided to call on his pastoral relations committee for help on setting boundaries around his work-time schedule: "What happened was completely unexpected -- at least by me!After I made my presentation I paused to await the reactions of the pastoral relations committee members.Thats what I mean by returning to the initial callwhere it became clear what God wanted you to doand you went out and believed you could change the world.  Concluding Remarks: Setting boundaries in the ministry should probably be viewed as a long-term project.It is a matter of raising awareness and educating laity over a long period of time.