Online dating for overweight
I would lay on the couch at night and unenthusiastically swipe on Tinder. I didn’t exercise much and only ever half-heartedly.No effort was made with my appearance – I dressed like a slob and my patchy beard was a crime against facial hair.However, I can finally wear a singlet with my head held high.My attempts at romance as an overweight man looked something like this.Are you truly a 'good vibes only', 'easy-going' type or, being honest, are you a worst-case-scenario catastrophiser who lies awake at night thinking of the many and varied ways that you could lose your job?We tend to think of 'height-fishing' and 'fat-fishing' as the most cunning forms of dating deception, but the truth is that we all know how it is to portray a fantasy version of ourselves online.A while ago, I was a slovenly and overweight 31 year old man. I settled for girls that I knew weren’t right for me because I didn’t have the confidence to pursue those who were. My self-esteem was low, I felt I had little to offer in a relationship, and that some women were simply out of my league.
The trouble with jokes is that they can backfire spectacularly, especially when they're disruptive, distasteful or - as the marketing team at Tinder recently discovered - even slightly plausible.
When they post honest photos of their physiques, they get bombarded with messages from men who want to fulfil their sexual fantasies with a one-night-only dalliance.
Considered from this point of view, it's easy to understand why many avoid full-body photographs altogether.
Needless to say, I didn’t date much, and when I did it was without conviction.
When I moved to a Thai island to work on my online business, I was still thoroughly overweight and unhealthy.