Husbands angry outbursts are intimidating
Just as a doctor must sometimes cut us in surgery in order to remove what is killing us, true friends sometimes say things that aren’t easy to hear. Whatever is down in the well will come up in the bucket sooner or later.
But in those cases, true friends first remove the telephone pole from their own eye before they remove the speck of sawdust from someone else’s eye. “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice” (v. These words describe a collection of wrong attitudes that corrode the soul from the inside out.
The meaning is, “Don’t let any putrid words come out of your mouth.” Or we might say in street lingo, “No trash talk! Here are a few examples: Vulgarity, obscenity, indecent language. The pain was so great that he didn’t know how to respond. Paul mentions the sad consequence of our unkind words in verse 30: “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.” Did you know that you could grieve the Holy Spirit who lives within you?
Gordon Mac Donald tells the story of a trip to Japan he took as a young man.
That gives a particular emphasis to his words: Every critical comment that comes out of your mouth … The Bible speaks of the throat as an “"open grave” (Romans ).
The verse opens with a Greek word that means “all, each, every.” The word meaning “no” occurs later in the verse. Proverbs says, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Every time you open your mouth either life or death comes out.
According to Proverbs , “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” And James 3:5-6 offers this penetrating warning: Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts.
When there is death on the inside, it will eventually show up in the your words.
Second, we are to speak words that minister grace to those who hear them.Whenever I read that verse, my mind goes back to a speech class I took in college. I think it was his first or second year of teaching. He picked Ephesians , which we repeated every time we met. It was a quick, sarcastic comment that was unkind and unnecessary.Back then everything we learned came from the King James Version so that’s how I remember it: “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” What the NIV translates as “unwholesome talk,” the King James translates as “corrupt communication.” The underlying Greek word means “rotten.” It was used for decaying flesh, rotten fish or rotten fruit. The older pastor stopped, looked him in the face, and said, “A man who truly loves God would not talk about a friend like that.” Gordon Mac Donald said it was as if a knife had been plunged between his ribs. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.