Ftm and mtf dating
K, who’s living in the US, is currently unable to take steps to physically transition.
“I plan on doing all of these things, I just have to wait until I’m financially and safely able to do so due to my personal situation between me, family, and work.” Being unable to transition physically can lead to being misgendered, which can be very upsetting.
In the UK, gender confirmation surgery is covered by the NHS.
Wait lists can be long though, and require a ‘social gender role transition period’ (a period of time living as the gender you want to transition into) of 1-2 years prior to surgery.
A lot of times I get, ‘Oh, sorry I'm not into girls’, which is incredibly frustrating,” K continues.
That may be true for some, but don't take it as read; get to know a guy first! For some trans men who take T, some of these physical changes can be difficult to get used to.
“It's a lot more sensitive than it used to be, and we can end up enjoying different things sexually, as well as experiencing dryness down there,” Jas says.
I chatted to pansexual trans man, Jad Ellis Warden, heterosexual trans male, K, and non-binary, transmasculine person, Cas, to ask them what questions they’re constantly asked by cis people. Jad describes the difference between sexual identity and gender identity as“two distinct things”. Sexuality is who you do.” Some trans men can even find a sexual awakening once they begin their physical transition. “I would have dreams about marrying women and being their prince,” he says.
FYI, these kinds of questions can be intrusive, offensive and disrespectful – so please, just don’t’ ask them. “But I just attributed that to an overactive imagination.