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And they asked whether I was willing to date someone with a disability.
This algorithm was meant to weed out the untouchables.
However, the website didn’t ask if I had a criminal record, was a pedophile, a dead-beat parent, a sociopath, bankrupt, unemployed, a philanderer, or morbidly obese with severe halitosis. Jewish matchmakers seem to draw the line of defective at a disability.
As a result of this algorithm, I was never matched with anyone.
They do not define how we opine on politics, religion, family planning, or how our personalities, intellect, and ideologies are formed.
The other 5 percent of blind dates were with actual untouchables: married men, grandfathers 40 years my senior, the perpetually unemployed, and, once, a convicted pedophile. Boyfriends ended the relationship for a variety of reasons: Their rabbis advised them to.
They were afraid one day they would resent me for my disability.
They were afraid we’d have children with my disability.
Orthodox Jewish dating and matchmaking websites asked if I was disabled.
As I watch my friends, one by one, get married and have children, I often think back to that day I visited the RCA.
I wonder, if I had chosen a larger dating pool over religion, whether I’d be married with children today. But I do know that I am G-d’s child, and I don’t need to be married to have purpose.
And I’ve found that one of my purposes is to educate the community on the importance of treating disabled Jews no differently than nondisabled Jews.
Our greatest prophet, Moshe, had a disability — a speech impediment.