Dating and personality disorders
You’re both extremely touchy, can’t stop smiling, you’re in the bedroom as much as possible. The most common example is that you’re a few weeks into dating and you’re already supposedly ‘in love’. But I’ve been there and I know how easy it is to believe you’re in love. Why do we say that we’re in love when it’s not true? Next thing you know, you’re caught up in this “rollercoaster” and you simply have no idea how to slow it down.And it all starts from how we were brought up and what was fed into our mind as a young child.I can’t stress how important it is to calm your feelings and think outside your head for a minute.Take notice of what whirlwind romance and don’t let it suck you up.And by boundaries I mean For women, there’s just nothing more attractive than a man that knows what he wants, isn’t afraid to call you out, challenges you instead of chasing you, values himself and yet still has that genuine love for you. For men, while we do tend to focus more on beauty, the killer combo is a woman that’s beautiful has brains.
If you get this stuff down, you’ll see enormous improvements in your relationships over a short period of time. Here are the important factors that you need to know right now so you can begin to implement these in your current and future relationships: I know that BPD relationships are complicated.This is because they tend to be extremely hard on themselves due to often having terrible and invalidating childhoods which have led them to harbor feelings of shame and guilt which they must shield themselves from. The person with BPD will - at least for a short period - lose sight of anything positive which you have contributed to the relationship and see you as bad.It is a very black and white inner world in which the borderline lives.Things just happen and before we know it, we’re caught up too deep to pull ourselves out.Almost every single relationship involves some sort of honeymoon period where you’re both in a whirl of emotional highs. Love is a connection that builds over a long period of time. But it’s really due to these deeper mindset issues when we allow our feelings and emotions to carelessly flow free so early.