Dating after divorce with a baby
It takes anywhere from 1-3 years for individuals to emotionally recover from divorce.
In a perfect child-focused world, parents would refrain from dating until they are emotionally ready.
What you say to your children when you begin dating after your divorce will depend largely on their age. You'll be in bed when I get home."With school-age children (6-10) you can begin to provide more information.
If you need a reminder about what to expect at each developmental stage have a look here When talking with young children (infants and toddlers) describe the person you are seeing as a friend. I'll be back soon."With preschoolers (ages 3-5) still describe the person you will be going out with as as friend. You will likely want to have a more in-depth conversation about dating.
Dating after divorce - even the words fill some divorced parents with dread.
This is obviously a very personal decision with no one right answer.Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?If your answer is the latter, you may want to address these powerful and often destructive emotions before making a final decision about dating after divorce.Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.This is a good time to reassure your child that even though you are beginning to go out on dates, you will still always reserve time for just the two of you.