Dating a widow with young children too soon
I decided to sit down with a group of women, all who have dated a widower, and ask them about their experiences. How is dating a widower different than dating a divorced man?
In other words, maybe others will judge them for finding happiness again. And it’s hard to determine the right time to speak up.
Dating at this stage in my life, though, is going to be far more complicated than it was when I was young and free (ahem: no kids). All my future plans included seducing the same man for the rest of my life and ending up old, cranky people who yelled at kids to get out of our yard while we rocked the day away on our rickety porch.
I am older and wiser, I have more obligations, I have more baggage. You will need to be secure enough to accept that and embrace that part of who I am.
If I like you, you’ll know it; if I don’t, you’ll know it (sorry). My poor husband worked his tail off for a good four months for me to agree to meet him in person!
The idea of having adult conversations over a glass of wine or a nice dinner was appealing.
The reason I write is to be open and honest and transparent and real and raw.
The reason I write is so that others going through what I have gone through feel less alone, less afraid and more normal, more seen, more known.
The reason I write is to speak truth and life and if that incurs judgment from small minded and overly opinionated people, so be it. That being said, the decision to date after loss is not an easy one.
Some widows choose never to date again, to remain single and find happiness in their singleness.