Best friends before dating

Ultimately, the best way to have true love forever may be to be best friends forever first.

Picture this: You’ve told your best friend all about the person who has caught your eye at school.

Friends enjoy spending time together, share similar interests, take care of each other, trust each other and feel a lasting bond between them.

It isn’t a coincidence that these all happen to be qualities that also define successful intimate relationships.

When you look at seemingly happy celebrity couples like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, or Leslie Mann and Judd Apatow, not only do they appear to be in love, but they also seem to genuinely enjoy hanging out together.

All too often it seems individuals are overly forgiving of a relationship partner’s bad behavior, when they would never accept similar behaviors from a friend.

For example, if your friend was mean, rude, perpetually grumpy, nagging, dishonest, argumentative, emotionally unstable, ignored your texts, called you names or didn’t want to have meaningful conversations with you, would you still want to be friends?

If not, it’s fair to hold similar expectations for your romantic partner.

More recently, across two studies with nearly 400 participants in relationships, those who place more value on the friendship aspect of their relationship also report more commitment, more love and greater sexual gratification.

In addition, valuing friendship also decreased the chances of the couple breaking up.

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