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When you bring your ex’s race into the conversation without prior context, it makes you appear heartbroken and desperate for an Asian girlfriend replacement — a role I have zero interest in filling.Anime, K-pop, and martial arts are growing in popularity in Western culture, but that doesn’t mean every Asian person in Western society shares this interest.”Newsflash: mentioning your ex’s ethnicity doesn’t make you more desirable, sexually appealing, or trustworthy — and it certainly doesn’t make you appear more cultured if you’re a white heterosexual man.Instead, all you’ve informed me is that you once dated a girl that vaguely looks like me with ancestors that also came from the largest continent in the world.As author Chin Lu points out in her article , “Why do some men make the automatic assumptions that I am quiet, docile, great at domestic tasks, eager to please men, and my vagina is more magical than average? Go away.”Like the example provided in the image on the left, justifying your Asian fetish with “I just think Asian women are far more superior in looks and intelligence” is racist and sexist.[Am I] supposed to feel complimented when those people are attracted to me? The screenshot of You Tuber Anna Akana sums it up perfectly. Telling me you find me attractive because you find women of other races unattractive is not a compliment. In Shimizu’s article, The Hypersexuality of Race: Performing Asian/American Women on Screen and Scene, she says the sexuality of Asian women are often “framed in rivalry with a white women in terms of competing for idealized heterosexual femininity.” As an intersectional feminist, I will not tolerate anyone that thinks I should be flattered that I’m considered “superior” to people I stand beside, not against.
As a rule of thumb: if you don’t know, don’t guess. Contrary to what you might think, not all Asian people look the same., Xu explains that micro-aggression sounds a lot like cluelessness, and cluelessness sounds a lot like, “I’m white.
I once had a man ask me if I was Thai, to which I replied, “No, I’m Chinese.” Without missing a beat, he sighed, “Aw, that’s a shame.
I’ve always wanted to sleep with a Thai girl.”Not only did this guy view me as an object for his own desire, it was clear that he saw every Asian woman he met as a conquest — a list of “exotic women” to cross off his sexual bucket list. I have no intentions of sleeping with so you can home and brag to your friends that you slept with an Asian girl.
My point is I can possess a variety of traits that don’t conflict with my ethnicity.
When you frame a compliment under the umbrella of me being Asian, you diminish the value and sincerity of your words.